What I am doing to be Successful

What am I doing to be successful?

I am being consistent, confident and patient. I stopped worrying about what people think and what I think they’re going to think. I have stopped trying to figure out how it’s going to work and  why I am inspired to do the things that I am doing.

Consistency is key to success. Being consistent even when I don’t know how and why im doing it. I know from past experience the answer to how and why will become clear. For me it’s about just doing something. I do something towards the growth of my business and personal development each day. 

I remain confident in knowing that whatever I’m doing is going to help me and my business grow. I am my biggest cheerleader. I have confidence that I am able to achieve anything that I set my mind to. It starts with me believing in myself then my energy will radiate and everyone else will believe. 

Patience, patience, patience is key to success. It took  a lot of years for me to understand the importance of having patience. I live in NYC which is fast paced. Everyone in this city wants results right now. I being one of them. I have learned from my past experiences that the journey to the results is really what I seek. Once I get the results I am on to another vision.
I will continue to be consistent, confident and patient. I am going to enjoy each moment of my journey to my success.

Enjoy your journey to your success,

Coach Tracie(T.O.)

Act of Kindness

I am currently reading Chicken Soup for the Soul by Jack Canfield. It is a book filled with true stories from happiness to sadness. My favorite stories are the ones when someone did and act of kindness.   Reading these stories made me reflect on my own life. Do I do acts of kindness daily? Do I make someone smile everyday?

I had a coaching session with Anna at 9am on a Wednesday. I walked into the house and I saw a gate by the kitchen and all the outlets covered. I thought they must have an infant. As I walked further into the home I saw not 1 but 2 infants. I started smiling because it made me think of my twins. The twins were so busy playing that they didn’t even notice me.  Ana and her husband was busy trying to keep them safe. I continued to look at them explore the world through there senses.  They are so curious at that age and it is amazing to watch.

My session was over with Anna and it was time to leave. Anna asked if I could stay for breakfast. I thought it was very generous of them to offer me some breakfast. I had some time before my next appointment and decided to stay.  Anna went into the kitchen and cooked and omelet to go with the french toast that her husband had bought from his store. I continued to be mesmerized by there twins. I told them that I also had twins and that my twins were 6 years old. While Anna was cooking they asked me questions about raising twins. Were your twins on a schedule? Does it get easier? Do they get along? Did your twins sleep at night? I answered their questions and helped ease their anxiety.

Anna bought the food out from the kitchen and set it up on the floor. They had no table because of the twins.  It was exciting to experience eating with another culture. The food spread was wonderful they had pita bread, omelets and french toast. While we ate we laughed and talked about our experience with twins.

I went with the intention of making someone smile and I ended up smiling also. I never look for anything in return. But when I do acts of kindness I feel an instant feeling of joy. That feeling is worth more than any material object. Making people happy makes me happy. When people are happy and comfortable they instinctively show acts of kindness. In that moment they showed an act of kindness when they invited me to stay for breakfast.

Coach Tracie

How Did I Find My Passion

I found my passion when I stopped doing things solely for monetary gain. 

I joined some network marketing companies and in the beginning it felt like it was something good. When it got hard I was able to come up with excuses and stop because there was no real passion attached to the companies. The companies did well at painting a picture of a dream through other stories. It was a good way to wheel me in. When it came time to presenting and getting other people to join I would always feel fear. I convinced myself that it would get easier with time.

I realize now why it didn’t become easier. It is  because I misunderstood the feeling. I didn’t get that gut feeling because I was scared. I got it because it was not what I was destined to do. It took a couple more life experiences in network marketing for me to realize that network marketing does not work for me. I had no attachment to the product. The only attachment I had was the money an time I invested.

When I took monetary gain out of my why thats when my passion started to reveal itself.  My passion is in making people happy.  I live for it. I love to put a smile on everyones face whom I come into contact with. At least I know that if someone is having a bad day. That there was a moment of happiness in it and I was a part of it. 

With Love,

Coach Tracie

A story on forgiveness

My mother told me that I did not start speaking until I was 3 years old and ever since then I was always a quiet child. I kept to myself when others were around. I preferred to play by myself. I was an only child for the first 8 years of my life. I had very few friends. The friends I did have ruined my favorite toys. 

I remember my first cabbage patch doll. Cabbage patch dolls were very expensive and hard to get when they first came out. I was the first one to get it amongst my friends. I played with my doll every chance I got. My friend Kim would come over to play with me. My mother saw how much Kim liked my doll. She bought her one the next week. Kim came over everyday to play.  We spent the whole day playing with our dolls. 

After a long day of playing my mother told Kim that it was time for her to go home. Kim and I said  goodbye to each other and then she went home. After Kim left I went to play with my doll and  I noticed that the face was colored with markers. I immediately started to cry. My mother came running into my room and asked me what had happened. I showed her my doll and told her Kim had marked it up when I wasn’t looking. I couldn’t understand why she would do such a thing especially when my mother had bought her the same doll. I never got a real explanation.

My sitter and her daughter used to live in my basement. Her daughter Sandy was a year older than me. We got along great for the first few years. Then Sandy would do things to get me into trouble. Our bond that we first had started to fade away. After that I noticed some of my toys were missing. I waited a couple of weeks before I told my mother. I asked if we could go downstairs to see if my toys were by Sandy. We went downstairs as soon as we opened the door I saw all of my missing toys. I was happy that I found my toys. I went to go grab them and my mother stopped me. She told me to leave them there and that we would come back for them when Sandy gets back. I was so eager for them to get home. Every noise I heard I ran to the window to see if it was them. I did that all day until they finally came home. I called my mother and told her that Sandy was home.

We adventually went downstairs and asked them if they had seen my toys. They looked us straight in the eye and told us no. I immediately felt sad and angry. I didn’t understand why they would lie to us. My mother told them ok and we headed back upstairs. I started to cry and yelled at my mother and asked her why she didn’t tell them that we saw the toys. She said don’t worry I will buy you some new ones. That night I didn’t have a good night sleep. I kept reliving what had happened. The next day my mother told Sandy’s mother that she will no longer need her service and that they had a month to move. I felt some relief knowing that they were leaving. I hoped that when they left they would leave my toys. One way I came back from school and found out they had left. I went into the basement franticly looking for my toys. I looked everywhere but I couldn’t find them. I walked back upstairs with my head down and a overwhelming feeling of sadness.

The rest of my childhood into my early adulthood I had trust issues and I kept to myself.

I learned how to trust when I became aware that I lost trust from those experiences. I  had so long forgot about them. They were a seed that was planted and it flourished into a  deep rooted weed.  When I recognized it I forgave my friends for what they had done. Then I was able to dig up that weed and replant a new seed. This time it grew into a  beautiful plant filled with trust and love.

With Love,

Coach Tracie

Why Did I Pause?

I discovered my passion is to help people. I get so much joy from helping others. When I discovered my passion. I pursued it. I coach people through life’s obstacles. I was coaching people full time then I paused.

Why did I pause? Why did I pause?

I paused because the path I was taking became overwhelming. I needed some clarity to get going.  The pause gave me a clear direction and it awakened me to my potential. During my pause I discovered I want to be a public speaker.  I would have never thought that I would get joy from being on a stage and talking in front of thousands of people. I used to be shy, withdrawn, insecure and a introvert. I would have never thought of being a public speaker without the pause. The first time I got on stage I had fear. I felt the fear and did it anyway. Once I got past the first sentence it became easy. When I sat down I was filled with so much adrenaline. I knew from my feeling that public speaking is right for me.The positive feedback I received reassured me. 

I was told a closed mouth doesn’t get fed. That statement is very true and my mouth helped me surround myself with people who have similar visions. It also exposed me to people who are where I want to be. I look forward to my journey and my continued growth.

As I sit here and reflect on my pause I realize how much i have grown and how much i have learnt it has been an amazing pause. I am so glad that I have press play and I am moving forward with a clear vision. 

Before I saw my pause as failure. Now I see my pause as clarity.

Coach Tracie

How skydiving enlightened me

         It was a nice sunny day,  the wind was low and it was a perfect day to go skydiving.  I was so excited about the jump that I totally eliminated any sort of fear. I was with my friend, who also had enough courage to go skydiving. Although we probably both had fears that day, we knew we couldn’t admit it. I’m sure if one of us said that we didn’t want to do it anymore the other would have agreed. 

        Before the jump, they show you on a generic platform the maneuvers you need to do in order to have a safe, fun, jumping, experience.  Finally the wait was over and it was time for us to get our equipment to jump. They provided us with a jumpsuit. and from there you meet your instructor that you will tandem jump with. A tandem skydive is when a student skydiver is attached to the harness of a skydiver instructor. The instructor lead us to the airplane,when I saw the airplane. I looked at my friend and said the airplane was not in good shape for first timers. It looked like it needed a great amount of work done to it in comparison to the airplane that was parked right next to it. 

The inside of the airplane was no longer than 3 feet. There was only one chair in the airplane and that was for the pilot. The two instructors instructed us on where to sit. The instructors and my friend was sitting opposite of me with their legs bent due to limited space. I was seated with my knees bent right next to the pilot but facing the crew. We started on the runway and I began to get a little nervous because the pilot left the door open while he was speeding up the run way. I asked him if there is a reason why the door is open? He said "he was trying to get a breeze before he closes the door because it gets very hot in the airplane." The pilot closed the door right before I started panicking and the airplane lifted. The noise from the airplane was very loud and I couldn’t engage in a conversation with the crew. I started to have a conversation with the pilot. I asked him if he ever skydived before and he said "No, I would rather fly the plane".  

The pilot informed me that we were at 8,000ft and in 5 more minutes we will be at 10,000. I didn’t know how I felt about that information because I knew at 10,000ft it would be time for me to descend. He asked me how I was feeling. I looked out the window and I couldn't see houses anymore. All I could see was blue and clouds. At that point I must admit I told him I was scared. 

I started to imagine how my instructor was going to attach himself to me. Then while attached, how will I plant my feet on the platform outside of the airplane? The platform we were trained on was about 2ft wide and long. The platform on this helicopter was about 8in long and wide.  I couldn’t come up with a solution from my limited inexperienced thoughts and that made me very nervous. I was so nervous that I talked myself out of jumping. I was ready to ride back with the pilot and meet everyone on the ground. The pilot looked at me and told me "this is your stop." My instructor got on his knees because he couldn’t stand up in the craft and asked me if I was ready. I said no I’m scared. He said “To late for that there is no other way down besides jumping.” He also said it was normal for me to feel that way.  He instructed me to line myself in front of him so he could attach me to the harness.  He opened the door and all that wind and noise scared me. I said "oh hell no," but it was too late. I was already floating in heaven at least that's what it felt like. Whatever thoughts of fear I had remained in the plane. The free fall was the most amazing feeling I have felt in my life! It is hard for me to describe it in words. I had no thoughts or worries I was just in the moment. Although my free fall was no longer than 30 seconds it felt like eternity. I literally forgot I was free falling. I was actually shocked when my instructor pulled the parachute. When he pulled the parachute I became aware. My instructor asked me how I was doing. I said, "wonderful! I wish the free fall was a little longer. "

I continued to enjoy my drift in the air. I loved the scenery. I was amazed that I was not scared of looking down based on how high up I was. I actually enjoyed it. It is a totally different view from up there. I saw the ground getting closer, which meant it was time for me to land. My instructor instructed me to lift my legs and he lifted his legs also. We landed in a sitting position. My instructor detached me from the harness and I immediately looked up for my friend. After a minute I could see them heading down. They landed standing up. 

I couldn’t wait to ask my friend how his experience was. My friend told me that it was amazing especially the free fall. He couldn’t even describe it in words all he could say was it was amazing and that he would do it again. I told him I agreed.

I learned something new that day. I learned that I need to stop worrying about the past that doesn’t exist anymore. I need to stop worrying about a future that never comes, because although we plan for the future. We still live it out in the present. I chose to live in the present from that day on. When I was free falling there was no past or future all I had was the present. That is enlightenment.

What do you do to clear your mind?

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Have a enlightened week on purpose,

Tracie Osborne

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Why did I walk him to school

                 I was walking back home when to my surprise, I saw my youngest son standing across the street. My heart started to race and my breaths became labored. I was shocked then became angry that he was across the street.  Let me rewind to 30 minutes prior. It was a school day and I was getting ready to walk my oldest son to school. When the weather permits my twins ride their bikes or scooters to his school. This particular morning, one of my twins decided that he did not want to cooperate. He sat on the floor and refused to put on his sneakers and coat. I gave him some time to get ready. I explained to him that if he doesn't put his shoes and coat on that he will not be able to go. I could have just told my son to walk to school by himself. I had to take his twin into consideration. He was ready to walk to his brother school. If I would of stayed it would of been unfair to him.

                   I ran out of time and I had to leave.  I did not want my son to get detention for being late. Before I left, I gave him another chance to put on his sneakers.  He continued to sit still and not move so I left him in the house with his aunt.  The three of us started walking and my son came running out the house with no shoes on. I told him that he lost his chance to come with us and he had to wait inside until we got back. 

                    I waited until he went inside before I proceeded to walk. We usually take the same route when we are walking to his school, but today because I was not walking him all the way to school, I made a left at the corner instead of crossing the street and going straight. I walked my son a couple feet into the block I gave him a kiss and a hug and told him that I will see him later. I turned back around and started to head back home as I was approaching the corner I saw my son across the street.  I intially was scared because I thought of all the things that could have happened to him while crossing the street by himself. Then that same scare became anger all in a matter of seconds. I was forced to make a split second decision on how to decipline him for his actions.

                    My initial reaction on the way I disciplined him was based on my culture and how I was raised. I started yelling at him and grabbed him amongst other things and told him that he should never do that again. As we were walking back to the house I started to calm down. I didnt know what I was going to do until I saw him in the living room. I saw a little scared boy sitting in the living room. After some deep long breaths and a lot of "whoooosahhhhhs," I was able to talk to him calmly.  I explained to him that mommy got upset because she was scared of all the possible things that could of happened to you. I told him you could of got hit by a car or someone could have taken you away from mommy.  I explained, because mommy knew all of these things, it scared her and made her very upset because she assumed you knew better. Mommy is not mad at you anymore. Just do me a favor and never try and cross the street by yourself again.

                  I asked him what he was thinking and he said he was looking for me. When I heard his reply I immediately felt horrible for my initial reaction.  Here is this little boy who just wanted his mommy. He was determined to find me. His thoughts are pure and simple, not complicated like mine. I called him over to me and gave him a big hug. He went to the bathroom and leaned on the sink and started to cry. I went to the bathroom and I sat on the toilet so I could be his height. I told him, it's okay mommy is not angry and or scared anymore. I am happy because you didn't get hurt and nothing happened to you. I know that you're not going to cross the street any more with out mommy. I gave him a hug and told him that I loved him and he eventually, stopped crying.

         When we address situations dealing with children or any situation it is best that we approach it when we are in a parasympathetic state. What I mean by that is we have two main divisions of the autonomic nervous system. The parasympathetic nervous system and the  sympathetic nervous system. The parasympathetic nervous system slows down your heart rate and stimulates your body to rest-and-digest. You are calm and mellow in this state. The sympathetic nervous system accelerate your heart rate, constrict your blood vessels and causes your blood pressure to increase. It stimulates the body's fight-or-flight response. Your sympathetic nervous system is activated when you feel harm, threatened or angry. When you are in this state no ones opinion matters but yours. You are in attack mode. Your rational thinking is blocked. The major problem with reacting in this state will be the consequences for your actions. Can you be forgiven? or Can you forgive yourself? When you feel yourself in this state the best thing you can do is walk away or refrain yourself from speaking until you calm down to your parasympathetic state.



What would you have done if it was your child?



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Tracie Osborne



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